Keep Going

The hardest part of any task is to keep doing it. The same goes for those things that are needed to make your marriage successful. Any tip or practice that you employ to keep your marriage moving in the direction of happiness is something that you will have to keep doing, even when it’s not easy. The principles that I have talked about and will continue to talk about are not hard to do, but you have to keep doing them.

After starting these practices and keeping with them for a while, they will begin to be second nature to you. You want have to think about them as much. Keeping your marriage healthy doesn’t have to take all of your time, but it should be a priority. It takes as little as five hours extra a week.

That’s less than 45 minutes a day.

That’s finding out about a specific event in your spouse’s day before and after it. That’s talking to him about his life at dinner and holding her on the couch while she unwinds before bed. That’s kissing her when she leaves and telling him that you appreciate the way that he works so hard. It’s spent honestly trying to see his side of a conflict instead of focusing on how you are being hurt.

Forty five minutes is not a big time commitment but it makes a big difference. Making your marriage, and your life together, a priority is not the same as making it a goal. You accomplish goals, but your work on your marriage is never done. As often as things tear it down, you will have to build it back up.

It can be easy to turn toward your spouse when things are going great. It will be harder when you are tired, upset, or sad. It will be harder when things in life, not just your marriage, become complicated and overwhelming. It will be harder when you just want to walk away.

Keep at it.

Keep keeping at it.

Don’t ever give up. Your marriage is worth it.